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How to Overcome the Fear of Rejection

One of the reasons so many people quit their network marketing businesses is because they can’t face the fear of rejection. Fear can be debilitating. I compare prospecting with speaking in public or if you’re a guy, asking a girl on a date for the first time. It’s daunting and can pretty much give you a nervous breakdown! Right guys?

In my early days of building the business fear was one of the things that stopped me. I’d come home from a meeting or major function and be all fired up and ready to go. I’d plan out my evening phone session and right before it was time to start I’d make coffee or read a book on prospecting or listen to a tape on prospecting. Basically I’d do anything to not have to make those calls. I’d watch some TV, hang out with my wife, play with the kids. All the while watching the clock and quietly beating myself up inside for not starting the phone session. When the time came for my phone session to be over and it was too late to call, a sense of relief mixed with shame would come over me. But I knew I had all the time in the world to do it so doing it tomorrow would be just as good. Until tomorrow and the same thing happened.

What was the problem? Part of it was procrastination, and I thought the bottom line was fear of rejection because I took it personally. When someone didn’t want to get in my business I thought it was because of me. It wasn’t until I learned the reason I felt that way: My self image was extremely poor.

Poor self image comes from parents, teachers, siblings, and co-workers who, for whatever reason, don’t believe that you have what it takes to complete a particular task, whatever that task may be. After you hear their negative beliefs about you so many times you start believing it yourself. Then it becomes true about you.

There are several things that you can do to change that. I’m going to highlight some of those things in upcoming blogs. But the foundation of that change begins with changing yourself. The only way to change yourself is through Personal Development. You really have to build your business from the inside out. That is, build the person and then the person will build the business.

There’s an old story of a father and son on a weekend afternoon. The father, tired from his work during the week, was looking forward to reading the newspaper for a couple of hours. His young son came into his den and asked him to have a catch outside. The father told him that he would play with him later because he wanted to read the paper. The son joyously left the room only to return a few minutes later with the same question. Again the father sent him away. After this happened another time, the father took a section of the paper which had a big picture of the world on it, tore it apart and gave it to his son. He told his son to tape the makeshift puzzle of the world back together and then he’d play with him. No sooner than 5 minutes went by when his son came in with the puzzle all taped together. His father was amazed. "Son, how did you put that picture of the world back together so quickly?" His son replied, "It was easy dad. On the back of the page with the world was a picture of a man. When I put the man back together the world went back together too."

That is so true on many levels. Just like the business, when you work on the person, the person will change their business and the world. And that’s the mission of network marketing. I know you can do it and I definitely believe in you!

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  1. Sue Says:

    How to Hire the Ultimate Sales Manager and How to Run
    a Sales Organization Better Than Ever

    I’ve discovered the magic secret to getting companies
    to perform like a champion racehorse. It took me my
    entire career to really figure it out, but boy do I
    have it down and boy does it work. The following is a
    chronicle of exactly what I learned and how I learned
    it. You will learn a great deal about running your
    sales organization with much greater results.

    The secret to having a fantastic sales team is in
    getting every one in your office to perform like a top
    producer might perform. When I was a top producing
    sales rep, selling advertising, I instinctively did
    all the things you’d want every rep to do. I went
    after only the biggest possible clients. I wrote
    effective sales letters. I followed up with a
    vengeance. I sent constant promotional pieces
    depicting more and more sales points. I offered
    fantastic and stimulating insights about how to
    succeed in my market and never, ever, ever let
    rejection even slow me down. In fact, when rejected, I
    became even more aggressive, more determined that they
    understand why they HAD to have my product.

    Then I had the good fortune of working for billionaire
    businessman, Charlie Munger. I doubled the sales of
    the first company given to me in just 15 months and
    then doubled the sales of eight other divisions, most
    within that time frame or shorter. The first company
    he gave me, I doubled three years in a row. How?

    Remarkably simple, but 99.9% of companies don’t do it:
    I put into place the policies and procedures that made
    every single person perform like a top producer and I
    worked ON the business at least one hour per week,
    without fail. You can get profound results in your
    business if you work ON it (rather than just IN it)
    only one hour per week. As long as that one hour is
    designed to be proactive and you’re committed to
    improving the process incrementally. If today, you
    started working on how you get appointments, for
    example, and you looked to, once per week, make that
    skill just a little better, within ten sessions (ten
    weeks) you can have a profound improvement.

    In most sales organizations, the sales are ad-hoc,
    with everyone running around doing what THEY think is
    best and the management setting very little or no
    minimum standards of performance. For example, what is
    your standard for what type of account your
    salespeople should go after? Have you worked “on” this
    aspect of proper targeting? What are they going to
    present? What are the top five strategic objectives
    you want to achieve from every interaction with every
    buyer (seriously, have you sat down and talked about
    that, planned that out? Practiced it, role-played it
    and polished it to a fine luster?) It goes on, I just
    kept setting higher and higher standards – raising the
    bar on what I now call: “the minimum acceptable level
    of performance.”

    And though I went on with my career as a trainer (with
    now more than sixty Fortune 500 clients) to TELL these
    stories, to TEACH these concepts, to build many
    different training products that INSTRUCT on this kind
    of thing, I never realized how to transfer that
    directly to another company in the most effective way.
    Until now. Certainly, my products are going to make
    you a more effective leader, trainer and manager.
    Certainly, they make your sales reps more effective in
    every area from selling to presenting to cold calling
    to even time management. But if you’re the right size
    company, I have a proposition for you.

    I have mastered the art of becoming a virtual sales
    manager. For the next six months, just long enough to
    get your organization running like a finely tuned
    machine, one hour per week, I become your sales
    leader. - I literally run the sales meetings, weekly,
    and every week I raise the bar in some area of
    competency. It only takes one hour per week, but the
    results are profound.

    Let’s take “getting appointments.” I have a client
    that was getting maybe one or two appointments per
    week, even though they have four salespeople. Every
    week, I worked with the sales reps, just one hour per
    week, like all my training teaches (work ON the
    business at least one hour per week and you can have
    profound results.) In this case, I drilled down
    further and further on EXACTLY what the reps were
    doing. What was the activity level, who were they
    targeting, what were they saying, what tools did they
    have, etc…

    Each week the sales reps would go out and do the
    assignments I’d give and then come back the following
    week and report in, telling me of what went on, where
    they failed, where they were struggling. I would then
    tune-up each subtle nuance of getting around the
    gatekeeper and how to use voicemail as a valuable
    weapon rather than a closed drawbridge.

    Next, I meticulously worked on the exact telephone
    pitch. Exactly. What were the five to seven elements
    of what would make someone want to meet with them?
    When the person was trying to turn you down or get off
    the phone, what were the three to five ways to not let
    that happen? You wouldn’t believe how much I had to
    work on “the close” of a telephone pitch. When do you
    shut up and what do you say to actually set that
    appointment.

    Then I would role-play the heck out of the reps,
    constantly improving every little word, every
    sentence. Within about ten weeks, the meetings started
    to pop left and right. A client that was getting a few
    lousy appointments per week, were now getting 30
    appointments per week with the exact same sales team.

    And here’s the kicker, ALL of the meetings are with
    “Dream” prospects. Where the sales reps once went
    willy nilly after whatever company they thought of at
    the time, I had them ONLY work on the “Dream”
    prospects. So the results have been staggering. Huge
    meetings with huge prospects, every deal a monster -
    as compared to the previous year where they got only a
    few monster prospects in play, now they’re in play
    with 20 to 30 monster prospects every single week. In
    this case study I’m talking about, I doubled their
    sales over last year and I’ve only been helping them
    for five months, just one hour per week.

    But it doesn’t stop there. I got everyone so good at
    closing prospects for a meeting that many would cool
    off and cancel once they were out from under the
    white-hot heat I had perfected in the sales pitch. So
    then I put into place three separate steps to make
    sure that no one cancelled and that has worked really
    well. They went from a 25% cancellation rate to only
    one in 30 canceling.

    What next? Now let’s work on the client sale call
    itself. What’s the first thing you do when you walk
    in? What’s the second? What are the exact questions
    you’re going to ask and why are you going to ask each
    one of them? What are you looking to do for every
    question you ask? Then the presentation. If you know
    my material, you know how devoted I am to a great
    presentation. “Set the buying criteria” in that
    meeting. Set it righteous, make yourself the absolute
    most logical choice and dis-empowered ALL of your
    competitors completely while you’re at it.

    What are ALL the strategic objectives you are looking
    to accomplish in every interaction with a possible
    client? How will they be met? What do you want the
    next move to be? What would be ideal and then what are
    the five layers of alternatives below if you can’t get
    the “ideal” thing to happen?
    With or without me, this is what you have to do to
    have a fantastic sales organization. Work ON the
    business, once every week, for just an hour, but work
    ON that sales process and perfect it. Another example.
    What do you do when someone hangs up on you? What do
    you do when someone says “Call me back in a month”?
    What would a top producer do in each of those
    situations? Or if you sell electronically, how many
    ways do you maximize every interaction?

    Okay. All that said, time to talk about the new
    service I’ve perfected: The Virtual Top Producing
    Sales Executive!

    Everything I’ve described you can do on your own and
    you can improve every aspect of your sales process.
    But here’s where I might be of assistance. If you know
    my material, you know how critical a “psychological
    profile” is. Only .001% of salespeople have an ideal
    psychological profile.

    Allow me to use myself as a “case study” on
    psychological profile. I was always fascinated with
    finding these types and when I couldn’t find them,
    that’s what forced me to become more and more
    systematic about the processes of selling within an
    organization. The more you can systematize the sales
    process, the more you can rely on excellent selling
    going on in your organization.

    The reason I was able to double sales for Charlie
    Munger was because I was SURE of what a top producer
    would do because I was one. I KNEW what systems and
    procedures to develop because my instincts in this
    area are all natural, all part of my innate
    psychological profile. A top producer responds
    perfectly to rejection by becoming more effective. A
    top producer becomes more aggressive when someone is
    brushing them off, more persuasive if someone isn’t
    buying and always comes from the place of serving
    THEM.

    These “steps” can be honed into every aspect of your
    sales process and you CAN get regular salespeople
    operating more and more like top producers. You just
    have to drill down like a scientist into each and
    every aspect of the sales process.

    I’ve found that when I take on a client, I become
    emotionally attached to their success, and my
    particular skills become invaluable on their behalf. I
    become better at selling and pitching their product
    each and every week, applying all that to a
    systematized selling process that works like a
    machine.

    So it’s not just that I really understand the process
    of constantly improving your efforts, raising the bar
    every week, improving performance constantly, it’s
    that I have, myself, this mutant-like sales mind that
    becomes totally attached to YOUR success.

    I become devoted to getting higher and higher levels
    of performance in EACH area that counts; Getting you
    more appointments; Getting you BETTER appointments;
    Engaging your prospects more effectively; Finding more
    ways to serve them, while building an automatic and
    more powerful bond in the process; Making every
    meeting count. Presenting ten times better than any of
    your competitors, etc…

    How to qualify to be considered:

    I have had 60 Fortune 500 clients and have received
    fees in excess of a million dollars from a single
    client. This means that the average company would be
    unlikely to retain me. However, with smaller
    companies, if you have outstanding potential, I
    actually have a relationship where I take the majority
    of my fees based upon performance. What would you pay
    me if I could double your sales?

    This is all done by telephone: Today, conference
    calling has become so inexpensive that virtually
    anyone can have this service. You could have five or
    500 people on the phone with me once per week while I
    tweak and polish every little corner of your
    organization. And the other beauty is that this makes
    the meeting something no one ever has to miss. Your
    staff can call in from anywhere.

    (BIG BONUS!) And the calls can be recorded, so as I
    figure out the best ways to represent and sell your
    products, you can have it all on CD: You can have an
    entire course, customized to YOUR company, on CD
    forever, all by a Fortune 500-level sales executive
    who temporarily upgrades every aspect of your sales
    process. So all NEW sales reps or mgmt coming into
    your company later can get the same training that
    everyone else has had.

    Another important tip for you: Make your weekly
    meetings mandatory. That’s how you get real progress.
    Since each session takes you deeper and incrementally
    builds upon the previous session, you must be on every
    session. I will teach you how to make the meetings
    mandatory. How to make sure no one ever misses them.
    Even if a rep is sick, they can LISTEN. Just call into
    the conference.

    What is this worth? The last job that I had where I
    worked for someone else (which is now 18 years ago), I
    was earning in the mid six figures. My first year in
    business for myself, I earned over a million dollars.
    I’ve had single clients pay over a million dollars and
    one paid me nearly two million dollars. So what is it
    worth to get a superb expert selling for you and
    working ON the nitty gritty of making your sales
    process stunning?

    The good news is that I only need to spend one hour
    per week working ON your business. So this makes my
    otherwise six-figures-per-month fees much more
    affordable. And the rate varies depending upon the
    potential and the share of that potential you’re
    willing to give to have me double your sales.

    One more major benefit, CEO Training. Where do you get
    CEO training? Most CEO’s don’t know how to hold a
    highly effective meeting. They don’t know how to
    structure their organizations or even themselves for
    maximum productivity. They don’t know how to change,
    adapt and re-organize for new stages of growth. Each
    phase of growth requires adjustments that most CEO’s
    never notice or understand. I’ve been through every
    phase of growth (I’ve helped three companies grow to
    $100 million) and reported to billionaires and CEO’s
    of the best companies in the world. I’ve helped many a
    CEO become a MUCH more effective CEO and I’ll help you
    do the same as well.

    And unless you’re not a nice person, we’ll bond. I’ll
    care about you. That’s my psychological profile. I’ll
    become your greatest ally and asset, the one person
    you tell anything to because I’m not an employee, yet
    I’ll know your organization intimately (I begin my
    relationships with a comprehensive audit where I learn
    every detail about your company).

    TO QUALIFY: In order to get you a free session with
    me, to determine if we should work together, you need
    to have activities and resources for me to work with.
    Meaning, this offer is not available for someone who
    just has a good idea and no actual company in place.
    You have to have processes in place, resources with
    which to begin your Dream Selling effort, and at least
    a few salespeople for me to work with.

    If you need help hiring the right type of salesperson
    and you have the resources with which to do so, I have
    perfected the methods to help you hire top producer
    types.

    So if you are an active company with great potential
    that merely needs the finest management available
    today, you should contact us. My assistant will open a
    dialogue with you and then if you qualify, she will
    get you on the telephone with me for a preliminary and
    exploratory conversation.

    Success Stories:

    • Doubled the sales of a magazine in 15 months, using
    everything I told you about here.

    • Took a telecom company from $3 million in sales last
    year to a $9.5 million pipeline for new business
    within only three months.

    • Took another company with one salesperson and showed
    them how to hire five more on straight commission. The
    company went from $60K per month, to $250K per month
    in six months.

    • A benefits broker was getting a handful of meetings
    per month (mostly with small companies) and now they
    are getting 20-30 meetings per week and ALL with large
    companies.

    • Took a $5 million services company that was at
    break-even, and added a million in increased sales,
    from their current clients, and the only additional
    expense increase was $35,000 – So it was more than 90%
    profit.

    • Took a newspaper with falling circulation and
    increased their circulation by 350% in one year flat.

    • Took another magazine that was declining in sales
    and had been for years, and got them a 67% increase in
    one year.

    • Took a carpet cleaning company that was getting 6%
    increases every year and got them an 87% increase in
    sales in just one year. Virtually quadrupling the
    sales per rep.

    • Took a company selling training products and
    developed a $6 million revenue stream from scratch. It
    saved this company’s butt.

    • Took a billion dollar conglomerate that was falling
    into the red at 10% per year and got them $100 million
    in the black in a single year.

    • Took a manufacturing company in deep trouble (three
    years of increasing red ink) and got them into the
    black in a single year.

    If you qualify, I’d love to talk to you. If not, I
    hope you’ve thoroughly enjoyed the education about how
    to incrementally make your sales effort great!

    For more information visit http://www.howtodoublesales.com

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