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    How to Overcome the Fear of Rejection

    One of the reasons so many people quit their network marketing businesses is because they can’t face the fear of rejection. Fear can be debilitating. I compare prospecting with speaking in public or if you’re a guy, asking a girl on a date for the first time. It’s daunting and can pretty much give you a nervous breakdown! Right guys?

    In my early days of building the business fear was one of the things that stopped me. I’d come home from a meeting or major function and be all fired up and ready to go. I’d plan out my evening phone session and right before it was time to start I’d make coffee or read a book on prospecting or listen to a tape on prospecting. Basically I’d do anything to not have to make those calls. I’d watch some TV, hang out with my wife, play with the kids. All the while watching the clock and quietly beating myself up inside for not starting the phone session. When the time came for my phone session to be over and it was too late to call, a sense of relief mixed with shame would come over me. But I knew I had all the time in the world to do it so doing it tomorrow would be just as good. Until tomorrow and the same thing happened.

    What was the problem? Part of it was procrastination, and I thought the bottom line was fear of rejection because I took it personally. When someone didn’t want to get in my business I thought it was because of me. It wasn’t until I learned the reason I felt that way: My self image was extremely poor.

    Poor self image comes from parents, teachers, siblings, and co-workers who, for whatever reason, don’t believe that you have what it takes to complete a particular task, whatever that task may be. After you hear their negative beliefs about you so many times you start believing it yourself. Then it becomes true about you.

    There are several things that you can do to change that. I’m going to highlight some of those things in upcoming blogs. But the foundation of that change begins with changing yourself. The only way to change yourself is through Personal Development. You really have to build your business from the inside out. That is, build the person and then the person will build the business.

    There’s an old story of a father and son on a weekend afternoon. The father, tired from his work during the week, was looking forward to reading the newspaper for a couple of hours. His young son came into his den and asked him to have a catch outside. The father told him that he would play with him later because he wanted to read the paper. The son joyously left the room only to return a few minutes later with the same question. Again the father sent him away. After this happened another time, the father took a section of the paper which had a big picture of the world on it, tore it apart and gave it to his son. He told his son to tape the makeshift puzzle of the world back together and then he’d play with him. No sooner than 5 minutes went by when his son came in with the puzzle all taped together. His father was amazed. "Son, how did you put that picture of the world back together so quickly?" His son replied, "It was easy dad. On the back of the page with the world was a picture of a man. When I put the man back together the world went back together too."

    That is so true on many levels. Just like the business, when you work on the person, the person will change their business and the world. And that’s the mission of network marketing. I know you can do it and I definitely believe in you!

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    1. Sue Says:

      How to Hire the Ultimate Sales Manager and How to Run
      a Sales Organization Better Than Ever

      I’ve discovered the magic secret to getting companies
      to perform like a champion racehorse. It took me my
      entire career to really figure it out, but boy do I
      have it down and boy does it work. The following is a
      chronicle of exactly what I learned and how I learned
      it. You will learn a great deal about running your
      sales organization with much greater results.

      The secret to having a fantastic sales team is in
      getting every one in your office to perform like a top
      producer might perform. When I was a top producing
      sales rep, selling advertising, I instinctively did
      all the things you’d want every rep to do. I went
      after only the biggest possible clients. I wrote
      effective sales letters. I followed up with a
      vengeance. I sent constant promotional pieces
      depicting more and more sales points. I offered
      fantastic and stimulating insights about how to
      succeed in my market and never, ever, ever let
      rejection even slow me down. In fact, when rejected, I
      became even more aggressive, more determined that they
      understand why they HAD to have my product.

      Then I had the good fortune of working for billionaire
      businessman, Charlie Munger. I doubled the sales of
      the first company given to me in just 15 months and
      then doubled the sales of eight other divisions, most
      within that time frame or shorter. The first company
      he gave me, I doubled three years in a row. How?

      Remarkably simple, but 99.9% of companies don’t do it:
      I put into place the policies and procedures that made
      every single person perform like a top producer and I
      worked ON the business at least one hour per week,
      without fail. You can get profound results in your
      business if you work ON it (rather than just IN it)
      only one hour per week. As long as that one hour is
      designed to be proactive and you’re committed to
      improving the process incrementally. If today, you
      started working on how you get appointments, for
      example, and you looked to, once per week, make that
      skill just a little better, within ten sessions (ten
      weeks) you can have a profound improvement.

      In most sales organizations, the sales are ad-hoc,
      with everyone running around doing what THEY think is
      best and the management setting very little or no
      minimum standards of performance. For example, what is
      your standard for what type of account your
      salespeople should go after? Have you worked “on” this
      aspect of proper targeting? What are they going to
      present? What are the top five strategic objectives
      you want to achieve from every interaction with every
      buyer (seriously, have you sat down and talked about
      that, planned that out? Practiced it, role-played it
      and polished it to a fine luster?) It goes on, I just
      kept setting higher and higher standards – raising the
      bar on what I now call: “the minimum acceptable level
      of performance.”

      And though I went on with my career as a trainer (with
      now more than sixty Fortune 500 clients) to TELL these
      stories, to TEACH these concepts, to build many
      different training products that INSTRUCT on this kind
      of thing, I never realized how to transfer that
      directly to another company in the most effective way.
      Until now. Certainly, my products are going to make
      you a more effective leader, trainer and manager.
      Certainly, they make your sales reps more effective in
      every area from selling to presenting to cold calling
      to even time management. But if you’re the right size
      company, I have a proposition for you.

      I have mastered the art of becoming a virtual sales
      manager. For the next six months, just long enough to
      get your organization running like a finely tuned
      machine, one hour per week, I become your sales
      leader. - I literally run the sales meetings, weekly,
      and every week I raise the bar in some area of
      competency. It only takes one hour per week, but the
      results are profound.

      Let’s take “getting appointments.” I have a client
      that was getting maybe one or two appointments per
      week, even though they have four salespeople. Every
      week, I worked with the sales reps, just one hour per
      week, like all my training teaches (work ON the
      business at least one hour per week and you can have
      profound results.) In this case, I drilled down
      further and further on EXACTLY what the reps were
      doing. What was the activity level, who were they
      targeting, what were they saying, what tools did they
      have, etc…

      Each week the sales reps would go out and do the
      assignments I’d give and then come back the following
      week and report in, telling me of what went on, where
      they failed, where they were struggling. I would then
      tune-up each subtle nuance of getting around the
      gatekeeper and how to use voicemail as a valuable
      weapon rather than a closed drawbridge.

      Next, I meticulously worked on the exact telephone
      pitch. Exactly. What were the five to seven elements
      of what would make someone want to meet with them?
      When the person was trying to turn you down or get off
      the phone, what were the three to five ways to not let
      that happen? You wouldn’t believe how much I had to
      work on “the close” of a telephone pitch. When do you
      shut up and what do you say to actually set that
      appointment.

      Then I would role-play the heck out of the reps,
      constantly improving every little word, every
      sentence. Within about ten weeks, the meetings started
      to pop left and right. A client that was getting a few
      lousy appointments per week, were now getting 30
      appointments per week with the exact same sales team.

      And here’s the kicker, ALL of the meetings are with
      “Dream” prospects. Where the sales reps once went
      willy nilly after whatever company they thought of at
      the time, I had them ONLY work on the “Dream”
      prospects. So the results have been staggering. Huge
      meetings with huge prospects, every deal a monster -
      as compared to the previous year where they got only a
      few monster prospects in play, now they’re in play
      with 20 to 30 monster prospects every single week. In
      this case study I’m talking about, I doubled their
      sales over last year and I’ve only been helping them
      for five months, just one hour per week.

      But it doesn’t stop there. I got everyone so good at
      closing prospects for a meeting that many would cool
      off and cancel once they were out from under the
      white-hot heat I had perfected in the sales pitch. So
      then I put into place three separate steps to make
      sure that no one cancelled and that has worked really
      well. They went from a 25% cancellation rate to only
      one in 30 canceling.

      What next? Now let’s work on the client sale call
      itself. What’s the first thing you do when you walk
      in? What’s the second? What are the exact questions
      you’re going to ask and why are you going to ask each
      one of them? What are you looking to do for every
      question you ask? Then the presentation. If you know
      my material, you know how devoted I am to a great
      presentation. “Set the buying criteria” in that
      meeting. Set it righteous, make yourself the absolute
      most logical choice and dis-empowered ALL of your
      competitors completely while you’re at it.

      What are ALL the strategic objectives you are looking
      to accomplish in every interaction with a possible
      client? How will they be met? What do you want the
      next move to be? What would be ideal and then what are
      the five layers of alternatives below if you can’t get
      the “ideal” thing to happen?
      With or without me, this is what you have to do to
      have a fantastic sales organization. Work ON the
      business, once every week, for just an hour, but work
      ON that sales process and perfect it. Another example.
      What do you do when someone hangs up on you? What do
      you do when someone says “Call me back in a month”?
      What would a top producer do in each of those
      situations? Or if you sell electronically, how many
      ways do you maximize every interaction?

      Okay. All that said, time to talk about the new
      service I’ve perfected: The Virtual Top Producing
      Sales Executive!

      Everything I’ve described you can do on your own and
      you can improve every aspect of your sales process.
      But here’s where I might be of assistance. If you know
      my material, you know how critical a “psychological
      profile” is. Only .001% of salespeople have an ideal
      psychological profile.

      Allow me to use myself as a “case study” on
      psychological profile. I was always fascinated with
      finding these types and when I couldn’t find them,
      that’s what forced me to become more and more
      systematic about the processes of selling within an
      organization. The more you can systematize the sales
      process, the more you can rely on excellent selling
      going on in your organization.

      The reason I was able to double sales for Charlie
      Munger was because I was SURE of what a top producer
      would do because I was one. I KNEW what systems and
      procedures to develop because my instincts in this
      area are all natural, all part of my innate
      psychological profile. A top producer responds
      perfectly to rejection by becoming more effective. A
      top producer becomes more aggressive when someone is
      brushing them off, more persuasive if someone isn’t
      buying and always comes from the place of serving
      THEM.

      These “steps” can be honed into every aspect of your
      sales process and you CAN get regular salespeople
      operating more and more like top producers. You just
      have to drill down like a scientist into each and
      every aspect of the sales process.

      I’ve found that when I take on a client, I become
      emotionally attached to their success, and my
      particular skills become invaluable on their behalf. I
      become better at selling and pitching their product
      each and every week, applying all that to a
      systematized selling process that works like a
      machine.

      So it’s not just that I really understand the process
      of constantly improving your efforts, raising the bar
      every week, improving performance constantly, it’s
      that I have, myself, this mutant-like sales mind that
      becomes totally attached to YOUR success.

      I become devoted to getting higher and higher levels
      of performance in EACH area that counts; Getting you
      more appointments; Getting you BETTER appointments;
      Engaging your prospects more effectively; Finding more
      ways to serve them, while building an automatic and
      more powerful bond in the process; Making every
      meeting count. Presenting ten times better than any of
      your competitors, etc…

      How to qualify to be considered:

      I have had 60 Fortune 500 clients and have received
      fees in excess of a million dollars from a single
      client. This means that the average company would be
      unlikely to retain me. However, with smaller
      companies, if you have outstanding potential, I
      actually have a relationship where I take the majority
      of my fees based upon performance. What would you pay
      me if I could double your sales?

      This is all done by telephone: Today, conference
      calling has become so inexpensive that virtually
      anyone can have this service. You could have five or
      500 people on the phone with me once per week while I
      tweak and polish every little corner of your
      organization. And the other beauty is that this makes
      the meeting something no one ever has to miss. Your
      staff can call in from anywhere.

      (BIG BONUS!) And the calls can be recorded, so as I
      figure out the best ways to represent and sell your
      products, you can have it all on CD: You can have an
      entire course, customized to YOUR company, on CD
      forever, all by a Fortune 500-level sales executive
      who temporarily upgrades every aspect of your sales
      process. So all NEW sales reps or mgmt coming into
      your company later can get the same training that
      everyone else has had.

      Another important tip for you: Make your weekly
      meetings mandatory. That’s how you get real progress.
      Since each session takes you deeper and incrementally
      builds upon the previous session, you must be on every
      session. I will teach you how to make the meetings
      mandatory. How to make sure no one ever misses them.
      Even if a rep is sick, they can LISTEN. Just call into
      the conference.

      What is this worth? The last job that I had where I
      worked for someone else (which is now 18 years ago), I
      was earning in the mid six figures. My first year in
      business for myself, I earned over a million dollars.
      I’ve had single clients pay over a million dollars and
      one paid me nearly two million dollars. So what is it
      worth to get a superb expert selling for you and
      working ON the nitty gritty of making your sales
      process stunning?

      The good news is that I only need to spend one hour
      per week working ON your business. So this makes my
      otherwise six-figures-per-month fees much more
      affordable. And the rate varies depending upon the
      potential and the share of that potential you’re
      willing to give to have me double your sales.

      One more major benefit, CEO Training. Where do you get
      CEO training? Most CEO’s don’t know how to hold a
      highly effective meeting. They don’t know how to
      structure their organizations or even themselves for
      maximum productivity. They don’t know how to change,
      adapt and re-organize for new stages of growth. Each
      phase of growth requires adjustments that most CEO’s
      never notice or understand. I’ve been through every
      phase of growth (I’ve helped three companies grow to
      $100 million) and reported to billionaires and CEO’s
      of the best companies in the world. I’ve helped many a
      CEO become a MUCH more effective CEO and I’ll help you
      do the same as well.

      And unless you’re not a nice person, we’ll bond. I’ll
      care about you. That’s my psychological profile. I’ll
      become your greatest ally and asset, the one person
      you tell anything to because I’m not an employee, yet
      I’ll know your organization intimately (I begin my
      relationships with a comprehensive audit where I learn
      every detail about your company).

      TO QUALIFY: In order to get you a free session with
      me, to determine if we should work together, you need
      to have activities and resources for me to work with.
      Meaning, this offer is not available for someone who
      just has a good idea and no actual company in place.
      You have to have processes in place, resources with
      which to begin your Dream Selling effort, and at least
      a few salespeople for me to work with.

      If you need help hiring the right type of salesperson
      and you have the resources with which to do so, I have
      perfected the methods to help you hire top producer
      types.

      So if you are an active company with great potential
      that merely needs the finest management available
      today, you should contact us. My assistant will open a
      dialogue with you and then if you qualify, she will
      get you on the telephone with me for a preliminary and
      exploratory conversation.

      Success Stories:

      • Doubled the sales of a magazine in 15 months, using
      everything I told you about here.

      • Took a telecom company from $3 million in sales last
      year to a $9.5 million pipeline for new business
      within only three months.

      • Took another company with one salesperson and showed
      them how to hire five more on straight commission. The
      company went from $60K per month, to $250K per month
      in six months.

      • A benefits broker was getting a handful of meetings
      per month (mostly with small companies) and now they
      are getting 20-30 meetings per week and ALL with large
      companies.

      • Took a $5 million services company that was at
      break-even, and added a million in increased sales,
      from their current clients, and the only additional
      expense increase was $35,000 – So it was more than 90%
      profit.

      • Took a newspaper with falling circulation and
      increased their circulation by 350% in one year flat.

      • Took another magazine that was declining in sales
      and had been for years, and got them a 67% increase in
      one year.

      • Took a carpet cleaning company that was getting 6%
      increases every year and got them an 87% increase in
      sales in just one year. Virtually quadrupling the
      sales per rep.

      • Took a company selling training products and
      developed a $6 million revenue stream from scratch. It
      saved this company’s butt.

      • Took a billion dollar conglomerate that was falling
      into the red at 10% per year and got them $100 million
      in the black in a single year.

      • Took a manufacturing company in deep trouble (three
      years of increasing red ink) and got them into the
      black in a single year.

      If you qualify, I’d love to talk to you. If not, I
      hope you’ve thoroughly enjoyed the education about how
      to incrementally make your sales effort great!

      For more information visit http://www.howtodoublesales.com

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