• Changing the world around you starts when you change yourself. Let's begin the rewarding journey of change together.
  • Subscribe to the RSS Feed

    Coaching and Inspiration

    Design Your Life For 2009!

    Did you set some goals for the new year? How many of your goals from previous years have been accomplished?

    I’d like to introduce you to a new session I’m doing in my Life Coach practice that is designed to help you focus and achieve your goals for 2009. It’s called Design Your Life in 2009!

    Here’s what you can expect:

    • A review of your accomplishments in 2008
    • Take a look at your future by asking 7 Key Questions to begin Designing Your Life for 2009
    • Set your 2009 goals in the 8 Important Areas of Your Life:

    Job and Career
    Personal Growth
    Money & Finances
    Self-Esteem
    Personal Relationships
    Health & Fitness
    Personal Organization
    Quality of Life

      This is the perfect time to re-focus and set new goals for the new year. As a special price for the month of January I’m offering this session for just $75! That’s half off the full price of $150. And, I’ll also include a copy of my latest DVD “The 10 Secrets - Tips For Successful Goal Setting” absolutely FREE!

      To schedule a session, please call 609-268-0430 or email me at rvosler@verizon.net. I look forward to celebrating your success in 2009!

      Take Care,

      Rich Vosler
      Your Life Coach

      It Takes A Lifetime To Master Time

      One of the many things I’ve struggled with during the past couple of years has been handling time. It’s inevitable that I get to the end of my day without realizing what I’ve really accomplished. It’s very frustrating. I try to figure out the best way to go about my time usage but with little results.

      Something I have been successful with is identifying the time wasters in my day. They can range from email to surfing the web to people interruptions in person or on the phone to the door bell or package delivery man. Some of those things are inevitable and the only way out is to make sure that I’m spending as little time as possible on extras inside those tasks. So if I get an unexpected phone call, I can try to find out quickly what the person wants and resolve the task then move get back to what I’m doing. It sounds easy doesn’t it?

      Just the other day I got a call from a friend while I was in the middle of an important task. I contemplated not answering it but figured I’d have to call them back anyway so I took the call. It turned out that this friend was having a horrific day and I was able to listen to them and comfort them even though I didn’t say much. It was a call that was worth every minute to my friend. But I hung up a little frustrated after having spent close to an hour on the phone and getting further behind on my tasks.

      It wasn’t until later that I had a profound insight: I got an email from that friend thanking me for helping make their day a little better. What better thing could I have done than cheer up a friend? Mother Teresa said (and I’m paraphrasing), “Make sure when you leave someone that you leave them better than you found them.” While I am a task list person, and in fact I often consider myself “the list”, I couldn’t help but find this insight very comforting. Do we need to get it all done? Most of it, yes. All of it? Highly unlikely.

      Take a look at your biggest disappointments in your life thus far. I guarantee that most if not all of them have something to do with people. Maybe it’s an intimate relationship with a spouse or “significant other.” Maybe it’s something to do with one of your children or a close friend. It probably has nothing to with you wishing you would have spent more time at the office or with your customers.

      We have to learn to live life from the view point of the future. Keeping your future in mind without ignoring the present or learning from the past is the way to control your time. Because if you do that you’ll be able to keep your focus on what’s important. So the real question is not “Why can’t I master my time?” The real question is “What’s the most important thing I can be doing with my time right now and with who?”

      This Will Change Your Income…FAST!

      I want to tell you about a Fast Start program that will increase your income fast. It’s really quite simple. At the beginning of every week, take 50 prospects from your list and set them up on a schedule where you will call them over a 4 day period. On Monday, call 12 prospects. On Tuesday, call 12 more prospects. On Wednesday, call 13 prospects. And on Thursday, call 13 more prospects. That totals 50 calls and by Thursday afternoon you’re done. By Friday, you’ll be flooded with follow up calls which will eventually turn into sales.

      This Fast Start program has proven to work time and time again. Try it and I think you’ll agree. Here’s the key point: Do this EVERY WEEK. Now don’t call me whining and say, “I tried it for a week and it didn’t work.” That’s like saying, “I bought this treadmill and I went on it once for 30 minutes and I’m still fat. It doesn’t work. I want my money back.” That’s RIDICULOUS! You have to give it at least 4 weeks.

      And therein lies one of the keys to success: Consistency. Even if you made 1 call a day for 365 days, you’d have massive sales and massive income. But the problem is that we procrastinate and we figure out any way we can to avoid doing the work we know we need to do. And the worst part is - we don’t even know we’re doing it! That’s exactly why I teach about self talk and programs. Those actions, or lack of actions, come from us not having strong programs. Self talk will help you change all that.

      So go ahead and try this program and let me know how it works. As always, I believe in you and I know you can do it!

      Do Your Prospects Have Objections?

      The first thing to learn in regards to overcoming objections is that every customer has them. It’s a rare case when a customer buys with no questions asked. I’m not saying it doesn’t happen but it’s rare.

      Let’s talk about what objection really means. It’s defined as the act of expressing strong or reasoned opposition. And opposition is the condition of being in conflict. So if your customer is opposed to some part of your product or it’s terms, that means that they are having some internal conflict about their decision and are strongly or reasonably expressing it to you as their consultant in the transaction. It does not necessarily mean that they are getting ready to walk. It means that they see a potential problem and are looking to you to help them solve it. The only reason people walk away from transactions is because they are upset with you or your company’s handling of what they’re concerned about.

      The outcome of the transaction is directly related to how you handle what they see as a problem. It’s not because they are “jerks” or because “they just don’t know how things operate.” It’s because they had a concern and it wasn’t addressed adequately by you, the representative of the company and the product. And speaking of jerks, when a customer tells their family and friends not to deal with you because YOU are the jerk, that should alert you to the fact that you weren’t sensitive enough to their concern.

      Let me just put it to you bluntly: If you’re in sales to make a lot of money, you’re in the wrong career. Sure you can make a ton of money in this field, but along the way their are some foundational things that you need to do to be effective. People do business with people they like. If you’re not genuine, you’re not going to succeed.

      So how do you overcome objections? First of all, expect them. When I first started managing, my mentor said to me, “You should begin every day with the expectation that there will be 3 major fires for you to put out that day. If you do that, you’ll always be ready to overcome them.” I find the same to be true with objections. You should go into every sales process with the expectation that there are going to be 3 major objections. If you do that, you’ll be prepared to handle them.

      The easiest way to do that is simply by asking questions. As a coach, one of my favorite methods of coaching is by asking questions. Questions probe and uncover the real issues. There are some great standard questions that people use but I find that by listening you can uncover the real issues that they are concerned about and, just as an everyday conversation with a friend, you’ll come up with genuine questions that are specific to the conversation. You can ask the same 5 questions for every client’s objective but it will sound canned and your prospect will know it. That’s why I find it easier to be honest with them and try to overcome their concerns the way you would convince a friend to go see a certain movie with you or have dinner at a certain restaurant. It really is that simple. Good salespeople are good, passionate conversationalists.

      The second thing I would advise you to do is be open to what they’re telling you. If you’ve been selling for any amount of time you know that there are some preposterous objections or reasons why people won’t buy. But you know what? It doesn’t matter. You’ve got to be ready to help them overcome those in a genuinely concerned, professional way. In other words, if you think the objection is absurd, you can’t show that in your face, emotions or body language. It will take some practice but you can do it.

      Lastly, I would suggest that you subscribe to this blog. Then get yourself a copy of How To Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie. These things will revolutionize your sales career.

      Overcoming a perspective client’s objections should not be difficult if you are genuine and really care about the relationship. Beyond that, you’re on your own.

      This Goal Setting Process Works!

      If you do a Google search for Goal Setting you’ll get over 9 million results! There are so many programs out there taught about goal setting. Personally, I’ve been setting goals for over 16 years and the process I’m going to explain below is the simplest way I’ve found to set goals. And it actually works!

      I teach a process called AGS or Active Goal Setting. Here’s how it works:

      1. Write down your goal like this: “My goal is to ___________________ by _____(Date)_____. If you don’t date the goal, your mind won’t know when you want to achieve it. This is a very important part and many people don’t do it and it stops their progress.

      2. Then identify what’s standing between you and the goal. This is the obstacle. If your goal is to close 10 more sales in the next 30 days, a valid obstacle to your goal could be your fear of meeting new people if you’re in direct sales.

      3. Then figure out a good action step to overcome the obstacle of meeting new people. For example, to overcome your fear of meeting new people, the action step could be to begin practicing the FORM way of meeting new people. FORM is an acronym for Family Occupation Recreation and Money or Message. The way it works is simple: Begin conversations with strangers by talking about one of the FORM words. Talk about their family, what they do for a living, what they do for fun, and eventually money issues or what their overall life message is. If you start with family, the conversation will just develop from there.

      The same process I explained above can be used for any obstacle you are ever faced with in your life.

      Do this with each obstacle you come up with. Most people set goals and then try to go to work on the goal itself. That’s why most goal setting programs don’t work. With the AGS process, I’m teaching you how to focus on what’s standing between you and your goal and then working on that. When you do that, and overcome each obstacle, you get closer to achieving the goal.

      For today’s action step, I’d like you to put this goal setting practice in effect today. Think of one goal you’re having a difficult time achieving and use this practice with it immediately. Then let me know your results!

      I believe in you and remember: You are incredible and today is a great day to show it!

      If you’d like to learn more about this process, you can get my new DVD “10 Simple Rules For Goal Setting” for cost plus shipping here.

      Finding What Drives You

      Finding what drives you is he first step in sales success. What is your dream? 

      What do you want?

      What are your goals?

      This should be your reason for doing what you do. I don’t want you to take this lightly. People have a tendency to dismiss this step thinking it’s not necessary. Let me put it to you this way - if you’re not motivated by something, you won’t do what needs to be done to get it.

      All success is the progressive realization of a worthy ideal. The key word in that sentence is progressive. It’s not getting the thing that you want that’s important, it’s the journey towards it that’s important. Because in that journey you become the person you were created to be. So remember, success is not what you get, it’s who you become in the process. That’s where the real challenge lies. The getting of “stuff” is a natural by-product of taking the journey.

      Let me give you a simple exercise to help you identify your dream.

      1. I want you to go ahead and get a piece of blank paper.

      2. Then I want you to write a list of everything you’d like to be, have, or change in your life. Plan on taking some time to do this. Take the limits off and wave your wand. Write down anything and everything. Write the longest list you can - both short term and long term.

      What will begin to emerge is a list of the things you want most from your life.

      I call this your Dream List. As you begin to focus on one or two of these items that you really want, and turn them into goals, you will see changes in your energy level and you’ll begin getting more done.

      Have fun with it and get to it! I know you can do it and I definitely believe in you!

      Take The Responsibility

      Good Morning! I wanted to take some time this morning and experiment with an audio blog. It’s awesome and you can check it out below. Make it a great day!

      LISTEN HERE

      The Value of Talking - updated

      My 9 year old daughter has been struggling with her emotions lately. It starts as silence then a headache and stomach ache. I’ve tried to find out what’s bothering her but I don’t get very far. The other night after dinner I asked her to follow me into our sunroom. I pulled her up on my lap and asked her what was bothering her. After some prodding she said that she really missed her mom.

      We talked for 20 minutes about how it’s ok to miss someone you love who has died. I told her some special things about her mom and how much her mom loved her. But mostly I shared with her about how important it is to talk about what’s bothering you. At the end of our conversation she felt much better. Her aches and pains disappeared and she was her beautiful vibrant self again.

      I think that’s one area that we as adults, and we as sales people fail. Being older and more “wise” we hold our feelings in thinking we have to put on a strong front. In some cases that may be true but in most cases we are doing more damage than good.

      Take a look around your circle of influence. Is there someone who you are close with that you can share your feelings with? Someone who cares? Find that person and make a lunch appointment or phone appointment with them. I think you’ll find that, like my daughter, you’ll not only feel better but you’ll have built a relationship with a friend.

      In Memory Of A Best Friend

      Today is a very special day in our family. It was 3 years ago today that my beautiful wife and best friend Joanne left this earth and began her journey to Eternal Life. My heart today is heavy but it is also full of joy. Heavy because the loss is great but full of joy because of the beautiful memories that she left us with.

      Joanne and I had 9 children together. At her funeral I read a farewell letter to her in which I described our children as “9 pieces of you that I get to keep.” I never knew how true that statement was. As time has passed each of our children embody different qualities of her that bring her memory to life. The one quality that seems mostly at the forefront is her positive attitude which all the kids have been blessed with.

      Read the rest of this entry »

      Following An Ineffective Leader

      There’s a great website that I’ve been blogging and commenting on called Sales Management 2.0. I’m involved with a group there and we’re reading and blogging on John Maxwell’s book "The 360 Degree Leader". The book is awesome for people in any role including sales that aspire to become leaders. I recently wrote the following post I’d like to share with you:
       
      The next area of The 360 Degree Leader I’d like to talk about is Challenge #2 - The Frustration Challenge: Following An Ineffective Leader. I imagine we’ve all been in situations where we felt like our leader wasn’t very effective. Truthfully, that’s one of the ways I came upon my own personal leadership style - I had several ineffective leaders who I felt weren’t that good. Not to say that I was better, but I just knew that they weren’t effective. So when I began leading on a small scale all I really did was decide not to do the things that the worst leaders I worked for did. That actually was a good strategy for me. I knew that if I concentrated on the opposite of what it was I didn’t like that they did, I couldn’t fail. And you know what? It worked.

      Later I learned that there were other ways to develop my leadership abilities. The most important one was to spend time with effective leaders in the organizations I worked for. That proved to be a very valuable exercise. Today this is known as "sharing best practices." Another way to spend time with effective leaders is to read their work and listen to them teach. That’s how I came upon books like this one, The 360 degree Leader by John Maxwell. One of the first books I read by him was Developing The Leader Within You which was originally written in 1993. It is still today one of my favorite books by him or any author for that matter.

      But in this chapter, The Frustration Challenge, Maxwell talks about the different types of leaders that no one wants to follow. He gives poignant descriptions of 7 types of leaders that are difficult to follow. He then follows them with 6 solutions to become not only effective at following those difficult leaders but how to lead around them and help them become better leaders by adding value to them.

      And that’s the key, I think, to following an effective leader. Maxwell states that "the stronger you are as a leader, the more likely you are to face a situation where you can lead more effectively than the person to whom you report." If you can find ways to add value to your leader in a tactful way, you’ll not only be helping them improve buy you’ll also begin building respect for yourself in your leader’s eyes.

      And with that, I’ll leave to your reading assignment of Challenge #2. This is quite possibly one of the toughest challenges of leading from the middle. Maxwell nails it as you’ll soon find out. Happy reading!

       


      Rich Vosler on Facebook Rich Vosler on Linked In Rich Vosler on Twitter

      Client Testimonials: